We have all watched those viral wedding videos of dogs strutting down the aisle with bow ties and flower crowns, tails wagging, guests cheering. It’s pure joy when it goes right.
But anyone who’s planned a wedding knows that the best moments take prep, flexibility and a lot of patience, especially when your “fur baby” (or babies) are part of the celebration. And truly, what better place for that moment than a backyard or private venue wedding?
Close-knit celebrations are cozy, personal, and oh-so-perfect for including your four-legged family members, so long as you’re prepared.
Things to consider when having a dog in your wedding
Imagine asking a toddler to sit quietly for hours while people take photos, laugh, cry, dance and eat cake all around them. It’s a tall order and the same goes for your pup.
Weddings are bursting with sights, sounds and smells that can send even the calmest dog into sensory overdrive. Think: new faces, bustling activity, loud music, unfamiliar decorations, and a lot of emotional energy. When dogs get overstimulated or anxious, it can lead to barking, jumping, or even an unplanned “great escape” if a door or gate is left open.
What happens if there are children at the wedding and your dog gets startled or simply wants some space? Or if your pup tends to be nervous around strangers? Wedding food (hello, chocolate cake and spilled champagne), open flames, expensive decor, attire and floral arrangements can all pose risks, too.
You work hard to plan for every human scenario, from the menu to the mood lighting, and your dog deserves that same level of preparation. Help them share in the love – not the chaos.
Rehearse for “happily ever after”
If your dog is a ring bearer, flower pup or simply the “dog of honor” – practice is everything. Start by getting them comfortable with any special outfit or accessory. Have them wear their tux harness, floral collar, or bandana for about an hour at a time, offering praise and treats until they forget it’s even there.
Give a stash of treats to your photographer. Practice having your pup’s photo taken by strangers ahead of time or introduce them to the photographer before the big day. That familiarity (and a pocket full of treats) goes a long way toward calm, cooperative poses.
Run through their big entrance in your yard or ceremony space. Practice walking down the aisle, sitting quietly during vows, and posing for photos. If your dog will be stamping the wedding certificate, get them used to having their paw pads gently dipped and pressed ahead of time.
If you’ll be wearing a long gown or train, rehearse commands like “off” so your pup learns to stay close without stepping on your dress.
If you’re planning something unique: like your dog carrying a basket held by a tennis ball, pulling a wagon, handing out drinks, or even skateboarding into the reception, you’ll definitely want to be sure they’re well-trained for the role. It’s also wise to have a human backup plan in place, just in case there are too many “what ifs.”
A trek down the aisle for senior dogs or pups might not be the best idea. Think about their comfort and safety: would it make more sense for them to ride in a mini electric car, or have a cozy, quiet spot next to the “Welcome” sign, where guests can see them away from the ceremony/hustle and bustle.
Remember, your dog is part of your wedding – not the center of it. The goal is to include them in the celebration without letting their role steal the spotlight or create unnecessary stress.
Kayla Cavallaro and Alexis Ott are co-owners of The Mainely Dog in Falmouth and Portland. They offer personalized daycare, boarding, grooming and enrichment options. For more information about programming visit themainelydog.com.