Without boring you with my long laundry list of woes, let me briefly state that I am 54 years old. I look to be about in my early to mid-40s. I was married for 10 years to a woman who was very nice at first, but after years of me neglecting my marriage and acting like a horse’s behind, she left me a little more than a year ago. Our divorce was final in December 2011. She met a man on an online dating service about a month after our divorce, and married him two short months later. She and her new hubby and my 9-year-old son are moving out of state. During the past year, I’ve been on two dates that went nowhere. I’m not a bad-looking guy and I’m not overweight. I feel pretty lonely right now and feel awful a lot of the time. Any idea how long it will be before I start feeling a little better? I am not sure what I am doing wrong, but women are not attracted to me at all. I don’t know why. I have tried the online thing with little to no success. I attend church, I try to do social things with groups, but I am not a bar guy at all. Any advice or encouragement would probably go a long way.

Dear Annie: I am a single parent. My youngest left for college last fall, and I did OK handling the changes in my home and heart. I took on a few redecorating projects, attended numerous local events and accepted another job to help with tuitions and to get out of the house. But I still find myself lonely.