I’m a smart, witty, friendly and not an unattractive guy. Yet I still haven’t shared a real kiss with a girl. I can be a little shy sometimes. If a girl catches my eye, I have a difficult time introducing myself or approaching her. I’m studying abroad next semester and hope that will help. What can I do to speed the process along? I know you only have to get it right once, but it scares me that I am six years behind my friends in their quest for true love. I’ve essentially been trying to become a better version of me. To do better academically, to get into shape, basically hoping a more confident me is a more attractive me. I’m not sure if this is a smart strategy or if it is simply a veiled form of fear and procrastination. But whatever it is, it hasn’t worked. Am I crazy? Is there something wrong with me? Will I ever kiss a girl?

Dear Annie: I have been friends with “Jon” for seven years. For three of those, we dated and lived together. In the end, we decided we didn’t work as a couple and decided to remain friends. Jon is rather arrogant, and even though he has always been there for me, he also has occasionally taken advantage of our friendship.