Dear Annie: Last year, you printed a column on Father’s Day about what makes a dad. There is a huge difference between what makes a “father” and what makes a “dad.”

I disagree with your advice last week to someone who suggested that accidentally meeting someone to date was better than making deliberate efforts to meet people. You said it would work out better if you had control over the process. You can’t control who you meet and whether or not he or she likes you back. The way to live the single life is to do things you enjoy rather than doing things where you might meet someone. If you like sports, play in a sports league. Maybe you will meet someone, maybe not, but you will have fun either way. No matter what you like to do, just do it, and you are likely to “accidentally” meet someone with similar interests and values. This is far superior to going out to a bar or party.