I’m 26 and have been dating this guy for four months. He is just amazing, smart, successful, interesting and caring. The only problem is that he makes it clear that he’s not ready for a relationship right now, and he could break things off if I get too attached, or if work and studies take him to another city. When he first said this, I was already in love with him. I thought I could handle the whole “dating just for fun” thing or win him over, but now I’m not so sure of either. It hurts me to think that he will be this close with other women in the future, and eventually marry someone who is not me. Should I break up with him? I’m afraid I’ll never meet someone like that again.

Dear Annie: My family wants to move to another state. The only reason we haven’t is because of my dad’s job. He has worked for the same company for 18 years and doesn’t want to lose his retirement benefits. I understand how important the job is, but the company could easily allow a transfer to another branch.