After 24 years of a happy marriage and four outstanding kids, my husband had an affair with a woman from his office (17 years younger). Although we spent time in counseling, he eventually decided to leave our marriage and marry this woman. My youngest child was only 7, and my ex did not play a very active role in his upbringing. Although we all went through considerable pain, all four kids have developed great lives and I have a wonderful relationship with all of them. We have seven grandchildren. Now, 25 years later, we occasionally meet in family gatherings for graduations, weddings, birthdays, etc. Despite the fact that I now have a wonderful life, successful career and many friends, I am quite miserable when we are forced into these small, intimate events. The presence of his current wife brings back all the pain and trauma that I suffered while they were having their affair and lied about it. She seems to think that “time has removed all the pain” and that everything has worked out well. I need help to resolve my anger, resentment and discomfort in her presence. She clings to him and makes everyone uncomfortable with her public displays of affection and makes it even more uncomfortable for me to try to have a conversation with him. I am no longer in love with him, but I am totally miserable in their presence. We have several upcoming family events in small settings, and I need coping mechanisms.
March 2012
Giving to good causes
OAKLAND — Cheeks, a 5-year-old cat, became the face of the Waterville Humane Society on Wednesday at Messalonskee High School’s performing arts center.
Maine Drama Festival Skowhegan schedule
SKOWHEGAN — The 81st annual Maine Drama Festival schedule held at Skowhegan Area High School was recently announced. The following plays will be performed in Skowhegan for the regional competition.
Al Corey Combo Band to perform March 31
WATERVILLE — The Al Corey Combo Band will perform at Spectrum Generations Muskie Center Saturday, March 31, for a night of dinner and dancing. Doors open at 6 p.m.
BRIEFS
EMBDEN — The town is accepting applications for the following positions: Planning board members and alternates, code enforcement officer, local plumbing inspector, animal control officer, E-911 addressing officer, appeals board members, recreation director and emergency management director.
Embden position applications available
EMBDEN — The town is accepting applications for the following positions: planning board members and alternates, code enforcement officer, local plumbing inspector, animal control officer, E-911 addressing officer, appeals board members, recreation director and emergency management director.
Child Identification event at Thomas
WATERVILLE — The Thomas College Criminal Justice Club and free masons will conduct a free Child Identification Program event for the public from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, March 17, at Larry Mahaney Gymnasium at Thomas College.
Hospital plans annual wellness event
WATERVILLE — Inland Hospital will host its 15th annual World of Women’s Wellness health event from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday, March 31, at Thomas College.
Kennebec Montessori School Open House set
FAIRFIELD — The Kennebec Montessori School will hold its annual Open House and Registration Day from 9:30 a.m. to noon Saturday, March 17. Visitors of all ages are welcome tour the classrooms, meet the teachers and learn about the Montessori approach to early childhood education.
Kohl’s Cares scholarship program
MENOMONEE FALLS, Wis., — The Kohl’s Department Stores Kohl’s Cares Scholarship Program will award more than $420,000 in scholarships and prizes, ranging from $50 Kohl’s gift cards to $10,000 scholarships, to more than 2,200 young volunteers who have made a positive impact in their communities. Nominations for children ages 6-18 will be accepted through Thursday, March 15, at kohlskids.com.